Success Rituals: Design Your Habits – Change Your Life
Charlie Sheen has dominated entertainment headlines since his very public departure from the popular CBS-TV show “Two and a Half Men“. In some ways it reminds me of all the publicity surrounding Paula Abdul‘s departure from the Fox-TV sensation “American Idol“. Both stars left after 7 very successful seasons with their respective shows. Both departures were big headline generating controversies. But for me, the similarities end there. What I find useful in comparing these two stars is how they handled the events, their success rituals if you will, in dealing with their situations.
Let’s take a look:
Charlie Sheen has routinely used the press to badmouth, bash and denigrate Chuck Lorre, the producer of “Two and a Half Men“. Based on what we know thus far, Charlie Sheen was fired after indulging in number of drug and alcohol related incidents and proceeding to publicly blast Chuck Lorre (creator of “Two and a Half Men“) and other CBS executives.
In addition to the destructive habit he appears to have with alcohol and illegal drug use, Charlie Sheen seems to be engaging in a habit that makes him feel good–lashing out at his former employer–but by doing so publicly, even though this may feel like a success ritual to him, he’s likely poisoning any potential producer or production company against hiring him. If this is a habit he relies on in a time of stress, how influenced would you be by his lack of success rituals when deciding whether to hire him or not?
Now contrast Charlie Sheen’s success rituals or lack of success rituals with how Paula Abdul handled a stressful contract dispute with “American Idol“:
First of all, Paula Abdul did NOT get into trouble with the law nor did she bring bad press upon her employer or force them to halt production of the show.
Secondly, when it became obvious there was a dispute over her continued participation on “American Idol“, Paula Abdul’s comments to the press were that she was disappointed in how negotiations were going and at no point did she resort to profanities and name calling. Her success rituals involved conducting herself professionally, with dignity and respect for what she’d devoted 7 years of her career to helping build.
Paula Abdul made it a habit of dealing with her dispute in a powerful and diplomatic way that ensured she burned no bridges and left doors open for any number of positive future possibilities to develop.
Proof: Just this past week, Paula Abdul signed on with the TV show “The X Factor” where she will be working with her former “American Idol” co-star judge, Simon Cowell.
Do you think Paula Abdul would’ve been offered the opportunity to join “The X Factor” if she had gone on numerous profanity laced verbal attacks against “American Idol” producer Nigel Lythgoe every week during her contract dispute?
I suppose someone might’ve been willing to take a chance on someone habitually acting in such an unprofessional manner, but I think the success rituals Paula Abdul uses every day in her personal and professional life played a big part in making that decision a lot easier for her new employer.
What do you think?